Girl, you’re not a guy.
Girl, opposite of a boy isn’t success and opposite of success isn’t a boy. Get over this assumption at the earliest. Make your career choice on YOUR OWN terms.
I wanted to make it a point to girls out there, who experience a tough breakup and step up on their agenda and say, ‘This is the time for myself. I will register to courses, keep healthy, meet my friends and take up career-oriented choices. He has to know what he is losing.’ Don’t, I repeat don’t mix up your professional and private life IN YOUR HEAD. Keep clear of what you aspire to achieve and who you want alongside on this journey.
Life has so much more to offer to a girl in the 21st century. You can be whatever you aspire to be. This freedom wasn’t given to many girls until late 1900’s. Many and many women fought continuously for centuries to bring us to where we are right now. Don’t throw it away on a boy who probably won’t care for it as much you should be.
Make good career choices, grind, put in the hard work, step up, take risks and do it all in your own terms. On your way, demolish all the stereotypes that say otherwise. Dress up the way you like, put on makeup if you like, watch all the rom-coms you wish to binge, show your emotion when you feel like to. You don’t have to turn into a guy to just show that you are focused on the work you do. Leave behind the thoughts in your head which tells you that- for people to take you seriously, you shouldn’t be like a girl, because when that happens, you are bringing down and personifying the definition of being successful to a man-like characteristic, which ISN’T TRUE at all.
I have read an article which says, ‘A shark in a fish tank will grow 8 inches, but in the ocean, it will grow 8 feet or more. The shark never outgrows its environment and the same is true about you. Many times, we see ourselves around small thinking people so we don’t grow. Change your environment and what yourself grow. Don’t ever be sorry about it!
Lastly, teach yourself and people around you- self- confidence, so that another woman’s confidence and self-love doesn’t make you uncomfortable. You NEVER need to dim anyone’s light to shine brighter.
Cheers to all the ladies working hard. Long hours, tired nights, early morning and big dreams. That grind is precious darling. Keep hustling and never at any point, I repeat, any point, trade your authenticity for approval because a wise girl knows her limits but a smart girl knows she has none.
